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2009年11月15日 (日)

香山リカのココロの万華鏡:「理想の自分」こだわらず /東京

(Mainichi Japan) November 15, 2009
香山リカのココロの万華鏡:「理想の自分」こだわらず /東京
Kaleidoscope of the Heart: The danger of a virtual self

There's been a case in the news lately of a woman possibly defrauding men while hinting she would marry them, with the victims dying under mysterious circumstances.
A weekly magazine recently carried blog entries and submissions to online recipe sites said to be written by the same woman. Reading these texts, I was surprised at the consistency of the worldview and self-image they revealed.

Describing herself as an "elegant, wealthy woman who loves her dog and her family, and cooks using high-grade, seasonal ingredients," she described a life of eating lunch in top class restaurants, getting her hair done at famous salons, and ordering cooking ingredients from well-known shops, complete with photographs.

Now, as it appears that behind all this pleasantness this woman was committing fraud, everything she wrote becomes suspicious. If, however, one read these things without knowing of her possible criminal activity, one might think, "Wow, there really are some elegant and pure-hearted ladies out there." That's how thoroughly her diary entries and recipes paint the picture of a woman given naturally to a wealthy lifestyle.

It seems to me likely that this picture she created online is the person she truly thought herself to be.

She cooked, took trips and studied in seminars for the sole purpose of writing these experiences on the Web site. However, when one thinks of where the money for all this came from ...

If only she had been the type to include her dreams and aspirations in her entries. If she had only wrote, "I went to a three-star restaurant today," there would have been no need for any money.

Perhaps she had established a rule for herself, that she must record the restaurants and so on she had been to in her diary. Perhaps she couldn't stand posting daydreams online.

At the moment, blogging is very widespread, and bloggers use a little technical expertise to increase their page views. If, however, you write as the person you wished you were, then at some point you may have to become that person in order to protect the image you've created.

Real people's lives and lifestyles are not nearly so consistent. Kind people have cruel sides, and refined people can be concealing vulgarity.

Of course, I'm not saying that blogs are the cause of her alleged crimes. But she may serve as one example of how fussing too much over an ideal version of ourselves and our lives can take us in unexpected directions.

If you are a compulsive blogger, then I think taking a break and occasional changes in content and tone are just about right. (By Rika Kayama, psychiatrist)

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