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2011年6月27日 (月)

香山リカのココロの万華鏡:ハードルを下げて /東京

(Mainichi Japan) June 26, 2011
Kaleidoscope of the Heart: Give yourself some credit
香山リカのココロの万華鏡:ハードルを下げて /東京

One day, when I was finishing a university lecture and asked if there were any questions, one young lady raised her hand and said, "Professor, what are you doing when you're at your happiest?"

The theme of that day's lecture had been, "Happiness takes different shapes for different people. There is no 'winning' or 'losing.'"

The first thing that popped into my head was "sleeping," but that didn't sound like an "educational" answer.

After giving it a moment of thought, I replied, "When I've finished the workday without any problems."

The hurdles I set for myself are pretty low. Whether I've managed to handle all my work or not, I'm happy and satisfied as long as I've come in for a full day.

"That's just no good," I've been told by many of my patients.

"Anybody can just show up at a job. You can only give yourself points for how much you boost your results and how much others compliment your work," some insist.
Such values are so different from my own I nearly get dizzy listening to them.

However, hearing these views from one person did lead to an epiphany; something, in fact, that had been right in front of me.
Patients like this, who say leading an ordinary everyday life is wrong, are using up their mental and physical energies in their unending pursuit of an extraordinary everyday life.
This drain is leading them into depression and other psychological ailments.

Here begins a vicious cycle, as they feel miserable about themselves for what they have become, and grow yet more unhappy.

If that's the case, then isn't it better to set slightly lower hurdles for yourself?

If you get up in the morning and, though still sleepy, you do some household chores and head to work, perhaps this isn't a fantastic lifestyle, but you'll probably get to the evening without committing a fatal mistake.

Then you can say to yourself, "Well, I did pretty well again today," and reward yourself with a fine tea or a glass of beer.

Just following this simple recipe, with no impossible goals, seems to me a lifestyle without a lot of stress.

And this isn't limited to each indivudual.

Japan recently experienced a truly terrible disaster, and the nuclear crisis that it sparked drags on.

Though it would hardly be surprising if we fell into despair and became careless in our everyday lives, this hasn't happened.
Instead, we have come together and done our collective best in the face of these trying times.

There are some who complain that the pace of recovery is too slow, or that if things continue as they are the economy will take a serious hit.
However, all things considered, would our energies not be better spent instead singing our praises, giving us all a boost?

Politicians who shower themselves in compliments are a problem, but the rest of us should be giving ourselves more credit. That's my view, anyway.

(By Rika Kayama, psychiatrist)
毎日新聞 2011年6月21日 地方版


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