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2014年4月 5日 (土)

香山リカのココロの万華鏡:失敗したいわけではない /東京


March 09, 2014(Mainichi Japan)
Kaleidoscope of the Heart: Nobody wants to fail
香山リカのココロの万華鏡:失敗したいわけではない /東京

Japanese figure skater Mao Asada appeared at the Foreign Correspondents' Club of Japan last month after she returned from the Sochi Olympics.

After she reflected on her performances at the Games, a reporter asked her how she felt about former Prime Minister Yoshiro Mori's comment where he said, "She (Asada) always falls at the most critical time" in a competition.

It was a rather straightforward question for a news conference, Asada, nonetheless, put a smile on her face and said, "I'm only human and humans fail. Of course, nobody wants to fail."

I was taken aback, and then realized that her comment is true in different situations.

Patients I see at my clinic, for example, sometimes need to apply for handicapped certificates or a pension for handicapped people after suffering from prolonged illness.

Documents necessary for these procedures extend over pages and they require complex medical certificates from doctors.

When patients come to me and ask me to complete the documents by the end of the day, I sometimes unintentionally treat them impolitely, saying something like, "I won't be able to finish them until later after I'm done with my other patients." The patients who asked for the forms would apologize repeatedly for causing me trouble.

That's when I am reminded that these patients never asked to be sick in the first place and I become embarrassed at how I reacted. I then would say, "I am sorry. I will finish those forms as soon as possible."

It's almost the end of university entrance exam season in the country. Some students will get accepted and some will not. If you are a parent and your child didn't get accepted into a university of their choice, please do remember that they didn't want to fail, before yelling, "You didn't study enough!"
 今はちょうど受験のシーズンだ。合格する人がいれば不合格者もいる。我が子が失敗すると、親はつい「どうして不合格なわけ? 勉強しないからこうなるのよ!」と叱ってしまうこともあるが、本人だって落ちたくて落ちたわけではない、ということは忘れないようにしたい。

Of course, not everything will be forgiven even if the person says, "What I have done is not something I wanted to do."

We have to face punishment or pay an appropriate penalty for our wrong doing, even when the action was unintentional or simply a mistake.

In our everyday lives, however, we should not blame those who try hard, just because they failed to bring expected results.

We need to remember in particular that people such as disaster victims or those who have handicaps, didn't ask for such conditions.

We should be considerate toward those who experienced difficult times because of illness or disasters and be willing to help them by realizing they didn't ask for those things to happen.

People do not choose to fail or be unhappy.

Olympian Asada reminded us at her press conference about such a simple, but important, thing we tend to forget.

(Rika Kayama, psychiatrist)
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