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2014年4月 8日 (火)

香山リカのココロの万華鏡:受験はあくまで本人次第 /東京

January 26, 2014(Mainichi Japan)
Kaleidoscope of the Heart: Exams are tests for students not their parents
香山リカのココロの万華鏡:受験はあくまで本人次第 /東京

This year's national center test for university admissions has ushered in the university entrance exam season in Japan. I take part in proctoring exams and work as an interviewer during the season, as I teach at universities on top of seeing patients at hospitals. The serious looks on the faces of test-takers and interviewees, I must admit, even make me nervous.

Recently, it has become quite normal for examinees' parents and guardians to accompany their children to universities and colleges where entrance exams take place. Some parents just take their children to and from the exam venues while others wait inside school buildings, such as cafeterias, until the exams are over.

A few years ago, a patient with depression told me that her daughter was taking university entrance exams that year. "I hear mothers accompany their children to the universities where they will be taking tests, but I can't do that because of my health problems. I feel sorry for my daughter," said the patient.

I forgot that I was her psychiatrist for a moment and told her my story, remembering the time when I was a high school student who was taking university entrance exams.

"I was desperately trying to decline my mother's offer to come with me. I thought I wouldn't be able to perform well with her there, worrying too much, asking me if I was all right or telling me that I absolutely had to pass the exam," I said to my patient.

This is a true story. I yelled at my mother who told me to do my best on the morning of the exam day, when I already knew that I had to do my best.

Maybe my patient's daughter felt the same way I did and was relieved that her mother was not coming to the exam with her.

When I look around the cafeteria during lunch time on days of the exams, some examinees have hand-made lavish lunches while others eat rice balls from a convenience store. I have never seen, however, those who had hand-made lunches answering all the exam questions at top speed after lunch time. I suspect that how well people do on a test is not a result of how involved their parents are.

I do understand that some parents want to support their children as much as possible when they are going through something as important as university entrance exams and job interviews. Nevertheless, it doesn't mean that children do not succeed unless their parents help them.

I wish everyone who will be taking university entrance tests and interviews the best during this exam season. I also hope their parents understand that succeeding in exams depends on the test-takers themselves.

(By Rika Kayama, psychiatrist)
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