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2015年2月23日 (月)

香山リカのココロの万華鏡:若者よ気軽に相談を /東京

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February 22, 2015(Mainichi Japan)
Kaleidoscope of the heart: Young people should reach out to adults more
香山リカのココロの万華鏡:若者よ気軽に相談を /東京

The season of university entrance examinations is now upon us.

Since I am based at a university, I sometimes work as a test monitor who oversees students while they take their exams.

Since this is also the season when people catch colds, many test-taking students can be seen wearing masks -- while others cough, and generally appear to be feeling unwell.

It is written in the test monitor manual that "students who do not feel well, or who need to use the toilet, should raise their hand in order to let the monitor know." This instruction is read out to students prior to the beginning of the examination, as well as every hour after the test has begun.
As monitors, we must then pay attention to see whether any of the students attempt to get our attention by raising their hand.

Even if students appear to be glancing our way, however, it is not up to the monitors to approach them.

Rather, we simply wait for the students to raise their hand.

During one particular examination, there was one student who appeared not to be feeling well -- but who did not raise their hand.

Toward the end of the test session, the student finally raised their hand and said, "my stomach hurts" -- by which time their face had already turned very pale.

I found myself wishing that the student had said something earlier, instead of suffering all that time. From the student's perspective, however, speaking up must have been a very difficult thing to do.

Later, while looking at an Internet discussion board among student test-takers, I saw numerous comments to the effect of, "I really had to go to the bathroom," and "I felt nauseous, but I couldn't just ask to leave the room for a while."

Why, I wondered, were these students unable to simply excuse themselves to use the toilet?

There was no need for them to have endured such feelings in silence.

I found myself wanting to tell these students that there was no need for them to suffer -- and that they should not be afraid to speak up to the test monitor.

After all, we certainly would not get angry or penalize them in any way on their examination score.

This matter is not restricted merely to that of university examinations, moreover.

In a more general sense, it seems that young people feel that if they share something with adults, they will not be understood -- or that they will simply be lectured at or otherwise placed in a disadvantaged position.

As a result, they refrain from sharing their problems or worries with the adults who are close to them -- and instead keep their feelings bottled up inside them.

After becoming an adult myself, however, I can say with certainty that we are not bothered by the thought of young people depending upon us or sharing their feelings of distress with us.

On the contrary, many adults are wondering how they can be of assistance in this regard -- and are waiting for the youth in their lives to open up to them.

So, young people, how about it? Why not feel comfortable enough to confide in an adult?

In some unfortunate cases, the first person whom you choose may not be completely understanding.

In that case, however, rather than give up, it is better to look for someone else.

And it also goes without saying: If you need to go to the toilet or are not feeling well while taking your university entrance examinations, please do not be afraid to raise your hand to leave the room.

(By Rika Kayama, psychiatrist)
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